......TODAY I WILL WRITE MY CONCLUDING PART IN BRIEF ABOUT WHAT AND WHY I WAS WRITING HERE,WHAT STEP I WANT TO TAKE NEXT, HOW THINGS CAN BE DEVOLOP OR EVOLVE NEXT...AND THEN EVEN OTHERS SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME!!!)


I HAVE WRITTEN ALOT IN THESE FEW MONTHS IN MY BLOGS-CHINUADITI.BLOGSPOT.COM/VIBHATAILANG.BLOGSPOT.COM/V.TAILANG.BLOGSPOT.COM AND ADITIFOUNDATION.BLOGSPOT.COM AND OFCOURSE IN OUR WEBSITE ADITIFOUNDATION.CO.IN.

MY ROLE MODELS ARE DEFINITLY GANDHIJI,MOTHER TERESA(WE ARE FORTUNATE ENOUGH THAT SUDHIRJI HAS GOT A NATIONAL CITIZEN'S AWARD BY HER HAND...EVEN WE WERE THERE.)...MANY MORE, SO AS MY FAMILY MEMBERS WHOM I RESPECT, BUT IF MAHATMA GANDHIJI OR MOTHER TERESA OR OTHER SUCH PEOPLE WERE IN MY POSITION....HAVING TRANPERENCY IN NOT ONLY IN THEIR WORK OR NATURE BUT IN TOTALITY, WHAT WOULD THEY HAVE DONE???

IF ONE GO ON WRITING THERE CAN BE ALOT TO WRITE,ON ISSUES,ON CAUSES,ON PROBLEMS AND THEIR SOLUTIONS,MOVIES,SPORTS,POLITICS,SOCIETY,SCIENCE,RELIGION,ON TRENDS,ON CONTROVERSIES,ON FAMILY,ON AMBITIONS,ASPIRATIONS,DREAMS...ETC...!!

BUT,WELL,I DO BECOME INTERNET USER,THOUGH STILL I AM NOT AN EXPERT. AND I NEVER PLANNED HOW THINGS WILL SHAPE-UP AND WHAT KIND OF REACTIONS I WILL GET OR HOW WORDS CAN GET INTERPRETED.BUT I MUST THANK TO ALL, AND I THINK I AM LUCKY ENOUGH THAT EVERYONE ARE COOPERATING WITH ME,DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY.

WELL,ITS NOT MY OFFICIAL RESPONSIBILITY TO CORRECT ANYTHING FROM MY PERSPECTIVE,BUT STILL I THINK I NEED TO DO IT.NOW YOU ALL MAY TAKE IT,AS YOU WANT TO.

I WILL WRITE WHENEVER I FEEL ITS NECCESSARY FOR ME. NOW POINT WISE I'LL PUT MY POINTS-

1-THESE CONTROVERSIAL MOVIES OR PLAYS WERE RESULT OF POLLUTION IN 'ON AIR'...WHICH SHOULDN'T BOTHER US,AS HOW REAL IT IS,WE ALL KNOW BY NOW,BUT ITS EFFECTING OUR MINDSET CONSISTENTLY. AND DEFINITLY EVEN BAD POINTS(ACCORDING TO US) ARE SPREADING WITH GOODNESS,WHICH(GOOD POINTS) I HAVE NOT DESCRIBED MUCH BUT I AM SURE YOU'LL KNOW THAT ALL KIND OF QUALITIES,ISSUES OR PROBLEMS THAT EXISTS IN SOCIETY OR UNIVERSE NEED TO BE CATER.SO IT WAS IMPORTANT FOR ME TO SHOW HOW THINGS WERE/ARE HAPPENNING...WHETHER ITS PLAYS BASED ON FAMOUS WRITERS WORK,SERIALS,ADS,MOVIES,OR TV/PRINT/INTERNET/RADIO...MEDIA..OR ROADSIDE TALKS,(THOUGH THESE THINGS ARE EVOLVING WITH TIME SO ITS BETTER NOW TO NOT TO LOOK BACK MUCH UNLESS ITS VERY IMPORTANT!!...ITS BETTER TO BE IN CONTEMPORARY TIME-AS NOW AFTER 'TITANIC'...IN WHICH A GIRL WAS GETTING MARRIED TO A RICH MAN BECAUSE HER MOTHER NEED TO CLEAR OFF HER DEBT WITH MONEY GIVEN BY HIM IN MARRIAGE LIKE'DAHEJ'IN OUR SOCIETY AND 'CONTRACT MARRIAGE' IN THEIR SOCIETY....BUT NOW ITS 'AVATAR' OR 'INCEPTION'!!

...AS WE'LL KNOW INDIAN CONTEXT,NORMS AND PERSPECTIVE OF STORYTELLING ARE DIFFERENT FROM OTHER COUNTRY'S STORY!!...DEFINITLY ACCORDING TO THEIR SOCIAL CONDITIONS AND SITUATIONS, BUT SOME HOW, AS WE ALL ARE GETTING GLOBLIZED AND THESE SOCIAL PROBLEMS ARE UNIVERSAL, AS SOMEHOW ALL STORIES LOOKS THE SAME,BUT WE NEED TO HIGHLIGHT INDIANNESS AS WE HAVE EVERYTHING IN OUR COUNTRY ART,CULTURE,HISTORY,LITERATURE(INCLUDING KAMSHASASTRA-AND VATSAAYAN),MEDICINE SCIENCE,VEDA-UPNISHAAD.... WHICH WE CAN APPRICIATE OR EVEN 'DISCARD'OR WEED OUT,INCLUDING ALL THE EMOTIONS AND SHADES,OR 'NAVRASA' INCLUDING 'SHRINGAAR RAASA'...SO AS ROMANTIC VALANTINE BABA,OH!
I MEAN KAMO-UTSAV/MADAN-OUTSAV/VASAANT-OUTSAV AS WELL!!

...SO AS 56 BHOG-VYANJAN,AND 36KALAYEIN...TO BE A COMPLETE PERSON!!!

(...ITS SOUNDS IMPOSSIBLE,BUT ONE CAN TRY TO LEARN THESE KALAYEIN AND VYANJAN AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE).

EVEN IN INDIA, IF GIRL'S/WOULD BE BRIDE'S FAMILY IS KNOWN TO THE BOY'S FAMILY,BEFORE MARRIAGE,...SHE CAN GO AND STAY AT BOY'S HOME, OFCOURSE WITH PARENTS OR GUARDIAN'S PERMISSION AS SHOWN IN 'MEINE PYAAR KIYA','PERDESH'..OR EVEN IN 'TAAL'ETC.

WHATEVER WE DISCUSS....IT DO GET REFLECTED IN OUR TALKS/DISCUSSIONS/ACTS/WORKS/...OR REFLECTION OF THINGS SHOWN BY MEDIA..., BUT NOW WE DON'T HAVE SUCH INTENSITY OF 'UNMMAD OR PAGALPAN OR MASS HYSTERIA'ON FIELD...FEW ANDOLEN'S OR INCIDENCE OF MONKEY MAN ETC'...THOUGH IT STILL EXISTS TO SOME EXTENT.

AM I WRONG???

IF YES, THEN WE NEED TO THINK...THE WAY ONE LIVE,IT MAY GET REFLECTED(ITS A KAANCH KA GHAR)...THOUGH AT TIMES EVEN AFTER DOING GOOD,YOU BECOME A VILLIAN OR A VAMP.

(WE DON'T MIND UNLESS ITS DAMAGING).

EARLIER EVEN I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW THINGS WERE HAPPENNING...BUT NOW AS YOU ALL UNDERSTAND IT IN A BETTER WAY, IT WILL BECOME MORE TRANSPARENT, THOUGH IT IS A BIT FRIGHTENING ALSO.PLZ DON'T TAKE OUR ROUTINE TOPICS OTHERWISE, FOR EXAMPLE SENDING RAKHI TO FAMILY MEMBERS ON RAKSHBANDHAN HAS BECOME 'DOULBLE MEANING' JOKE, FOR PROOF I HAVE CUT N PASTED ONE NEWS ARTICLE ALSO.THAT FLOW OF HARDNEWS WITH INTERESTING HEADLINES SHOWS HOW IT HAPPENED BEFORE ALSO AND CARTOONS OR NEWS MADE ON CURRENT NEWS THEN ALSO GOT MISUNDERSTOOD,SO AS PEOPLE WRITE OR DRAWING IT OR DRAWING ABOUT. ITS IMPORTANT TO SEE WHERE BUCKS STOPS!!...WELL I THINK 'ITS COLLECTIVE HAPPENING'...INCLUDING WHATEVER GOOD HAS HAPPEN OR BAD HAS HAPPEN!!"

FOR EXAMPLE,...DURING NDA'S 13 MONTHS TERM, MS JAYALALITAJI'S AIDMK WAS ALLIES AND CONSTANTLY BLACKMAILING THEM BY SAYING,WE'LL WITHDRAW SUPPORT, WHICH MEANS FALL OF GOVERNMENT!! THOSE DAYS FREQUENTLY ANY PERSON USED TO GO AND 'MANAO-I MEAN TO CONVINCE' AIDMK,INCLUDING NON-MP'S,LIKE-I MEAN SHRI ATALJI'S DAMAAD,SHRI MISHRAJI ETC,OTHER THAN GEORGEJI AND ALL!!...SO SUDHIRJI HAS MADE 'A CARTOON SHOWING A WOMAN DOING POONCHAA, AND A MAN TOLD HER TO TAKE THIS LETTER AND GO TO CHENNAI AND MANAO (CONVINCE) JAILALITHAJI".!! SO AS WHEN SONIAJI HAS JUST BEGUN HER INNING IN ACTIVE POLITICS IN 1996-7, SHE DID A CAMPAIGN FOR CONGRESS,SO AS SUDHIRJI MADE REGULAR CARTOONS ON HER THOSE DAYS. SHE WAS NEW AND A BIGINNER...SHE USED TO READ HER SPEECHES WORD BY WORD,AND COPY INDIRAJI STYLE IN SOME WAYS(WHICH WAS TRUE)....SO HE MADE NINE FRAME CARTOONS SHOWING HER IN DIFFERENT ACTIONS WITH THE CAPTION 'IS SHE A 'READER OR A LEADER'?"

I THINK CARTOONS ARE 100% BASED ON HARD NEWS,DIPICTED ON CARTOONISTS OWN OBSERVATIONS,SO IT SHOULDN'T AND WOULD NOT HAVE TAKEN OTHERWISE.

...BUT THEN IF CORRUPTION,CRIMINILIZATION,DONS OR ANYTHING UNLAWFUL AND EVIL GET GLAMOURALIZED,AND START EFFECTING OR INFLUENCING MINDS,ITS SAD,HERE PERENTS OR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS,MENTORS,TEACHERS ROLES AND MEDIA CAN PLAY POSITIVE ROLE,NEED TO COME FORWARD AND THEY NEED TO ACT. PARENTS GUIDENCE ARE ALWAYS NEEDED.'''
( DO YOU THINK THESE ARE VERY LIGHTER ISSUES.???)

BAD LANGUAGE OR BEHAVIOUR OR SHOWING DISRESPECT TO ANYONE OLD OR YOUNG OR A KID,IN WHATEVER CURCUMSTANCES...NOW ONWARDS SHOULDN'T BE TOLERATED OR APPRECIATED(IT APPLIES ON ME ALSO).

ONE NEED TO LEARN GOOD POINTS FROM A PERSON,AND IGNORE BAD POINTS OR FLAWS ON THEM AS EVERY PERSON HAS THESE SHADES,MAYBE BIT MORE OR LESS.

AS A CHILD I HAVE LEARNT A POEM..."FHOOLON SE NIT HASNA SEEKHON,BHOURON SE NEET GAANA, TARU KI JHUKI DALIYON SE NEET SIKHO, SHISH JHUKANA, SEEKH HAWA KE JHONKON SE LO KOMAL BHAWV BAHAANA....."

SO AS I HAVE SEEN A TV PROGRAMME ON MARTIAL ART ON DISCOVERY CHANNEL SHOWING "HOW THEY LEARN ACTIONS FROM ANIMALS LIKE CHITAH,GURREILLA ETC".

IF YOU LOOK BACK AND START TELLING OLD STORIES,..AT TIMES- WORDS OR SENTENCE SAID IN PRESENT TENSE, CAN SOUNDS WRONG, AS IT IS SAID IN TODAY'S CONTEXT,BUT YOUR ARE TALKING ABOUT PAST TENSE.SIMILARLY MANY TIMES ITS DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND POINTS, IF YOU DON'T KNOW THE BACKGROUND OF THE TOPICS,OR THE HISTORY/MYTHOLOGY....!!!AND YES, PEOPLE JUST REPEATING WORDS OR RELATING TO CHARACTERS, DO GET MESSED UP WHICH WAS NOT EASY TO REPAIR THEN,THOUGH,MY EXPERIENCE SAYS,PEOPLE DO LIKE GETTING PRAISED, BUT IF ANYKIND OF CRITICISM OR SCRATCH,OR MUCK SPILLED ...ALL THE HELL FELL ON MY HEAD. NOW PEOPLE ARE MORE RATIONAL,AS I THINK, AND I BELEIVE.

IN 2004 AFTER GENERAL ELECTIONS AND MUMBAI ELECTION AS I STOPPED DISCUSSING ANYTHING ON PHONE MUCH OR ANYTHING FROM ANY PLATFORM MUCH,THOUGH I NEVER USED ANY PLATFORM THOSE DAYS EXCEPT WORKING FOR AN NGO NEAR BY FOR A WHILE OR FREELANCING...THOUGH ROUTINE TALK WAS GOING ON,BUT PEOPLE THOUGHT WHY TILL 2-3YRS BACK EVERYTHING WERE SILENT. MY MOTIVE WERE QUESTIONED!!

WELL IT WAS NOT IN MY CONTROL MUCH,NEITHER IT IS NOW IN MY CONTROL,BUT VIA THIS 'SELF CREATED'PLATFORM,NOW I CAN MAKE THINGS SIMPLER,WHICH EVERYONE CAN UNDERSTAND.BUT THEN MIXING UP OF MATTER WRITTEN IN G-MAIL,HOTMAIL,FACEBOOK,ORKUT(I HARDLY USED IT),MY BLOGS,WEBSITE,TALKS DISCUSSIONS AT HOME AND ITS REFLECTIONS OR REACTIONS ON THEM,WHICH I WAS WATCHING...WHICH YOU CAN SAY...'JUGALBANDI'..OR 'EKALBANDI'.. CREATED CONFUSION,MISUNDERSTANDING,ANGER,UNREST AND PROBLEMS AND OFCOURSE EXCITEMENT ALSO...THOUGH MY FAMILY SUPPORT WERE ALWAYS WITH ME, WE MAY NEED TO HANDLE EVERYTHING MORE CAREFULLY AND SENSITIVLY,AS AAJKAL,WE ALL HAVE BECAME MORE AND MORE CASUAL"BEFIKRE'!!

... I NEED TO CLARIFY THAT MOVIES OR SERIALS MADE EARLIER,I MENTIONED THEM AS 'FOR EXAMPLE'.SO AS, A CASE OF MS PREETI ZINTA,WHO FILED A CASE AGAINST A TABLOID, WAS MENTIONED 'FOR EXAMPLE'...THERE. LATER ON A CYBER LAW WAS ALSO MADE,THOUGH CELEBRITIES GOSSIPS DO GET PUBLISHED IN GOSSIP PAGES OF MAGAZINES/ OR GET HIGHLIGHTED BY MEDIA SINCE AGES,ITS NOT A NEW THING.BUT VISUAL MEDIA DO CREATE AND EFFECT YOUNG MINDS MORE EFFECTIVLY.

CRICKETERS,FILMSTARS,POLITICIANS,EVEN MEDIA PERSONS DO GET MEDIA COVERAGE BECAUSE OF THEIR PROFESSIONAL MEDIA PRESENCE AND FAN FOLLOWINGS.

SO AS WHEN I SAID CRICKET, IT NEVER MEANT MY FAMILY WAS IGNORED,THOUGH LATELY I WATCH BIT MORE THEN NORMAL PEOPLE DOES,AS A CRICKET FAN.NO NEED TO DO RESEARCH ON THEM MUCH AS EVERY NEWS IS 'ON AIR', BUT LATER ON,I HAVE CHECKED CAPTAIN DHONI'S NEWS,MORE THEN OTHERS, AS I THOUGHT THESE GOSSIPS MAYBE ARE MERE SPECULATIONS. HE WAS MY CHOICE,ADITI KO BAAD MEIN BATAYA,MERI PAASAND KYA HAI..."MAINE USSSE POOCHHA NAHIN THA".ADITI IS 'NOT THAT MUCH' STAR CRAZY,THOUGH SHE APPRECIATES SPORTS AND EVEN SPORTSPERSONS.BUT WE KNOW,FINALLY SHE AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS WOULD HAVE AGREED,AND WILL BE AGREE IN FUTURE, IF WE OR EVEN I TAKE ANY DECISIONS FOR HER.DEFINITLY NOTHING WILL HAPPEN WITHOUT ADITI,SUDHIRJI,MA-BABUJI'S CONSENT.

I DON'T HAVE SO MUCH MONEY TO GET HER MARRIED ALONE,WITHOUT TAKING ANYONE'S CONSENT,NEITHER I AM INTERESTED IN DOING ANY SUCH THING.

I NEVER IGNORED ANYTHING AND ANYONE DELIBRATLY. WHOEVER IS READY TO CO OPERATE,SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCES RESPECTFULLY...ITS WELL AND GOOD!!

WHICHEVER STATES AND IN WHATEVER LANGUAGE PROGRAMME WAS, OUR FAMILY WAS NOT IGNORED, YES,OTHERS GOT ADDED IN IT,OR MERGED IN IT. THEIR PROBLEMS AND STORIES OR NAME MAY GOT HIGHLIGHTED IN BETWEEN.BUT IT WAS ALWAYS WE.IF SERIAL IS 'JUGNI CHALI JALANDHAR', EVEN WE WENT TO JALANDHAR....OR AT TIMES,YOU DON'T NEED TO GO. AND OUT OF 10 PROGRAMMES OR MOVIES 8 ARE GOOD IN QUALITIES OR CONTENT, SO NO NEED TO CRITICIZE THEM MUCH.MAST RAHNA CHAHIYE, PER TENSION BHI LENA CHAHIYE!!...IF THINGS ARE GOING WRONG WAY.

IN RECENT 2+YRS, I STARTED WITH 'CHINU'(CAN'T SAY IF SHE WAS READY FOR IT THEN,OR GOT BIT DISILLUSIONED BECOZ OF ME), MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS,(SUDHIRJI,OUR FAMILY), THOUGH I HAVE TO FACE RESISTANCE FROM BOTH SIDES AS WELL, ANGER AND FRUSTATION, AS THEY WERE POTRAYED AS 'GHATIA LOG/AACHEY LOG..BOTH, BUT STILL...THEY UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION'...IT PAINED ME,GOOD AND BAD SHADES ARE COMMON,THEN WHY SO!!

THOUGH NOW THEY ALL TAKE THINGS RATIONALLY AND I WANT TO SAY,WHETHER I AM HURT OR ANGRY, I RESPECT MY PARENTS AND FAMILY A LOT,...VAISE THODA MOHBHAANG TO HO GAYA HAI. PER TATAASTH RAHNA HI THIK HAI.

IN MY BLOGS,WHEREVER ANY REFERENCE WAS THERE I TALKED ABOUT SUDHIRJI AND ME AS WE, ART OF CARTOONING,CHINU/ADITI'S APEEJAY AND SARDAR PATEL SCHOOLS(GUJRATI OWNED SCHOOL)/COLLEGE(DELHI COLLEGE OF ART...SHE IS MY 'TARE ZAMEEN PER',BEING ARTIST DOESN'T MAKE HER LESS BHARTIYA,THOUGH HER POLITICAL VIEW IS MENTIONED AS'AGONISTIC' IN THE FACEBOOK.BUT SHE DO BELIEVE IN 'MAAN CHAANGA TO KATHOTH MEIN GANGA'...SO AS 'WORK IS WORSHIP' LIKE US.

SHE HAS DONE APPLIED ARTS-ADVERTISING,SHOT AD CAMPAIGNS,PRESS N PUBLICITY,PHOTOGRAPHY WERE HER SUBJECTS THERE.ORGANIZED AND PARTICIPATED IN FASHION SHOWS DURING THE COLLEGE FESITIVAL. SHE HAS DECIDED TO PERSUE FASHION PHOTOGRAPHY,JOINED INDIAN EXPRESS LAST MONTH, AFTER PASSING OUT HER 4YRS COURSE....COVERED RECENT VAN HUSSEN MEN'S FASION SHOWS,AND OTHER ASSIGNMENTS, PREPARING HER PORTFOLIO, LETS SEE HOW HER CAREER AND LIFE SHAPE UP IN FUTURE.I SUGGESTED HER TO DO ONE YEAR PG COURSE IN PHOTOGRAPHY,FROM INSTITUTE IN MUMBAI NAMED-'ZAARI' OR FROM ONE IN OOTY-'LIGHT AND SPACE'...OR MAY GO TO OTHER COUNTRY WHERE SHE CAN GET BETTER OPPORTUNITY.SHE HAS CHECKED SOME SCHOLORSHIP OPTIONS ALSO.AS HERE IN INDIA, FOR PHOTOGRAPHY ONE DOESN'T HAVE BETTER OPPORTUNITIES FOR PG.AND THEN COME BACK AND CONTRIBUTE.BUT ITS BETTER IF SHE JOIN SOMEWHERE HERE IN INDIA,IF SHE HAS BETTER OPTIONS.

SO AS OTHER OPTION CAN BE 'ON THE JOB ASSISTANT' TO AD/FASHION PHOTOGRAPHER,MAYBE IN DELHI,OR MUMBAI,ONE IS IN CHENNAI ALSO(MR G VENKATRAMAN)....LET HER DECIDE ON HER OWN WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO HERSELF. SUDHIRJI IS THERE TO GUIDE HER IN A BETTER WAY. SHE INHERITED THESE ARTISTIC CREATIVE QUALITIES AND ORIGINALITY AND GENIOUS IN HER FROM HIM.)

I MENTIONED HER...IN SOME CONTEXT OF EDUCATION AND CULTURE,DOES ONE SEE IT AS AN INFLUENCE OF RELIGION??...MAYBE IN CONTEXT OF PROTEST AGAINST 'VANDE MATRAM AND SURYA NAMASKAR',...ABOUT TODAY'S YOUTH WITH HER AND OR WITH HER CAMERA'S EYES...IT ALL WAS IN SOME CONTEXT OR OTHER.THOUGH SHE IS PRIVATE PERSON AND BOTH OF THEM TOLD ME NOT TO WRITE ABOUT THEM,OR PUT THEIR PICTURES IN MY PROFILES IN THE INTERNET THAT TIME.

WELL, USUALLY I DON'T GIVE PREFERENCES TO PERSON MORE THEN ISSUES. BUT AS A FAMILY PERSON WE DO DISCUSS OUR FAILURES AND ACHIEVEMENTS,HEALTH PROBLEMS,DAY TO DAY MATTERS ETC AND WISH THEM,CONGRATULATES THEM OR ENCOURAGE THEM.


AS I THINK,IT WAS AGAIN GOT BIT MESSED UP(BY OVER REACTIONS) AS NEW PEOPLE WERE THEN,NOT THAT EXPERT IN HANDLING OR SPINNING,WHENEVER I TRIED TO HINT THEM TO STOP THESE GOSSIPS GETTING HIGHLIGHTED(EVEN AT HOME AS WELL)...MEDIA HIGHLIGHTED IT MORE AND MORE,FOR EXAMPLE, WHEN I SAID,ARE YOU'LL COPYING SOMEONE...HEARD YUVRAJ SAYING ON TV,AFTER ASKED BY A JOURNALIST," PANT UTTAR DOGGE AAP LOG(DON'T REMEMBER THE EXACT WORDS...SHOULD WE CALL THEM-'JASSI JAISI KOI NAHIN,OR JUGGLER AS AJAY OF-'FHIR BHI DIL HAI HINDUSTANI',OR DRAUPADI...GAUTAM OF SAANS,AMERICAN, ENGLAND NRI...JUST HUSBAND AND WIFE AND THEIR MANY ASPECTS THROUGH PRISM,OR YOUNG STARS WHO HAS LINES OF FAN FOLLOWINGS(1,2,3,TO 10)...BIGADDA HUA YA NAHIN,I DON'T KNOW...OR JUST A MANIPULATIONS OR GETTING CARRIED AWAY WITH...JIDHAAR OR JAISI HAWA CHALI'...YA SHAYAAD BAAT NA MAAN KER BHI,BAAT MANTE HEIN!!!)"...AUR A PERSON WHO IS AN ALLROUNDER...!!

AUR MORE AND MORE GIRL OR BOYFRIENDS,LINK UPS/GOSSIPS/SPECULATIONS/OPTIONS GETTING HIGHLIGHTED ABOUT CRICKETERS,FILMSTARS, OTHER CELEBRITIES, WHERE AS I WAS TRYING TO SAY,INTIALLY AT HOME TO ADITI AND FRIENDS...."GROUP MEIN FRIENDS HONA AACHHI BAAT HAI PER NAM JUDENE SE KOI KHAP PANCHAYAT MENTALITY KE LOG GAALLI DETEIN HEIN,UNLESS ITS VERY IMPORTANT FUNCTION,OR WORK, IMPORTANT PARTY,..LATE NIGHTS OR NIGHT OUTS AND GOING TO EVEN GIRL'S FRIEND'S HOME IS NOT OK AND NEED TO BE AVOIDED...AS EVERY FAMILY HAS THERE DEADLINES,SO AS WORK OR STUDIES DO HAVE ITS OWN PRIORITIES!!

(DON'T MIX UP THESE THINGS WITH SCHOOL/COLLEGE/OR ANY OFFICE ATTENDENCE....OR 10 MINUTES LATE FOR ANY REASON!!)

...EVEN ITS NOT GOOD WITH SAFETY POINTS OF VIEW ALSO, LIFE IS NOT JUST 'RAANG DE BASAANTI'...THOUGH THEY ALL ARE SAMAJHDAAR OR RESPONSIBLE CITIZENS!!

...SPECULATIONS,GOSSIPS AND RUMOURS WERE 'ON AIR'...SO AS DISCUSSIONS WITH ITS SERIOUS ANGLES!!

THOUGH PEOPLE WERE ENJOYING IT. I TOOK MARRIAGE LINE,MUCH BEFORE THESE GOSSIPS WERE ON AIR OR I SAW IT IN INTERNET, AS THESE ELIGIBLE BACHELORS WERE BUSY FINDING/DATING BRIDE OR GROOMS. EVEN I WAS LOOKING FOR ONE FOR MY DAUGHTER. YESTERDAY I SAW A NICE ADVERTISMENT OF JIVAAN SAATHI.DOT.COM ON TV.AS ACCORDING TO OUR SHASTRAS 25YRS IS A RIGHT TIME TO GO INTO GRIHAASTH AASHRAM.AS IT IS DIVIDED IN 4 CATAGORIES-BRAHMACHARYA,GRIHASTHA,VANPRASHTHA AND SANYASA.

I HAVE ALREADY WRITTEN MUCH.STUDIES-GOOD CAREER AND GOOD LIFE PARTENER BOTH ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT ASPECT OF LIFE.EK HI SIKKE KE DOO PAHLOO HEIN.

IT WAS EXAMS AND COLLEGE ADMISSION TIME,THATS WHY MY FOCUS WAS ON HIGHER EDUCATIONS IN THE MONTH OF APRIL-MAY.I WISH SHE CONCENTRATES IN HER CAREER 100%,MARRIAGE WILL HAPPEN,WHEN IT WILL BE DESTINED.SHE'LL GET RIGHT OFFER of A RIGHT PERSON FOR HER MARRIAGE ON THE RIGHT TIME.

THOUGH I THINK NEW GENERATION ARE BETTER OFF NOW,WITH TIME.AND EVEN I WAS BUSY WRITING ABOUT CONTEMPORARY INDIAN VALUES, BUT FEW OLD POINTS GOT DISCUSSED, OR GOT DIVERTED/DIRECTED BY ALL OTHER MEMBERS ALSO.MAYBE MY FEW WORDS OR REACTIONS GOT MISPLACED. WE NEED TO RID AWAY FROM FEW WORDS WHICH NOT NECCESSARILY MEANT WRONG,BUT CAN SOUND OR GET INTERPRETTED WRONGLY. AM I SOUNDING FUNNY OR WEIRD??

(AS EVERYONE IN OUR FAMILY GOT INVOLVED,STILL WERE 'THATASHT'...AND I CAN PROUDLY SAY THAT MOST OF THEM SPEAK THE TRUTH, UNLESS ITS TO SAVE ANYONE'S LIFE,THEY ALL ARE WELL QUALIFIED,WHETHER THEY ARE WORKING IN PUBLIC SECTOR,SARKARI OFFICES,PRIVATE SECTOR...IN MEDIA FRATERNITY...THEY ALL ARE HONEST,HAS AMBITIONS TO GROW BUT NOT VERY MONEY MINDED,WELL OFF AND GROWING WITH TIME,EVOLVING, YOUNGESTERS GETTING MATURER, CONSTANTLY CORRECTING THEIR HABITS, LANGUAGE,ROUTINE AND BEHAVIOUR....AND GAINING IN KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCES....THEY CAN BE EASILY LOOK UPON PROUDLY BY PEOPLE AROUND THEN AT HOME AND OFFICES AND CAN BE THEIR ROLE MODELS,AS ONE CANNOT IMPOSE ROLE MODELS ON ANYONE. THOUGH AT TIMES FEW PEOPLE LEARN BIT LATE OR START BIT LATE,BUT DER AAYE TO BHI DUROOST AAYE!!)

I WAS NOT ONLY WRITTEN IN A GOSSIP BLOG OF MR M S DHONI/SAKHSHI'S FRIENDS(THEY ARE ALSO LIKE MY KIDS...SAKSHI BHI CHINU/ADITI JAISI HAI MERE LIYE, AND ...EVEN I DISCUSSED THESE ISSUES WITH ADITI AND HER FRIENDS ALSO AT HOME) ANNONYMOUSLY, THOUGH I NEVER TRIED TO HIDE MY IDENTITY THERE.

THOUGH I HAVE WRITTEN IN MY BLOG 'THAT TIME' IS THAT, INITIALLY HE REMINDED ME OF SUDHIRJI OF 80'S,WHEN I MET SUDHIRJI/SUDHIR!!...HE WAS ALWAYS VERY HARD WORKING,WORK ALWAYS COMES FIRST TO HIM,CHARMING,INSPIRING AND PROMISING. ONE NEED TO EXCEL AND BECOME BEST IN THEIR FIELD, SO HE DID IN VERY YOUNG AGE,HIS CARTOONS BEGAN PUBLISHING IN NATIONAL NEWSPAPERS WHEN HE WAS JUST 10YRS OLD.AND BECAME SIR FOR MANY IN VERY YOUNG AGE. GIVING LECTURES,CONDUCTING WORKSHOPS, TEACHING CARTOONS,WRITTEN BOOKS,MADE COMICS,TV ANIMATIONS AD FILLERS OF SOCIAL CAUSES,TV PROGRAMMES ON TV PERSONALITIES WITH MIX OF CARTOONING..FOR DD....HE HAS BEEN A MEMBER OF MANY COMMITEEES-TV,FILM,MEDIA INSTITUES.EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTES, SENSOR BOARD,ETC.!!

HE IS NOT 'AS FRUSTRATED OR CYNICAL' AS MANOJ BAJPAI HAS BECOME IN THE MOVIE 'SHOOL' BECOZ OF HIS 'CIRCUMSTANCES', IN A MOVIE, AS ...THATS 'A MOVIE',!!...BUT SUDHIRJI NEVER COMPROMISED IN HIS VIEWS....EVEN HE IS DAMAAD OF BIHAR PRADESH,AND HAS MANY BIHAARI FRIENDS.EVEN HE HAS TO FACE DEATH THREATENINGS,AND HAD SECURITY GUARDS WITH HIM.WHICH HE HIMSELF ASKED TO WITHDRAW AFTER SIX MONTHS.

HE ONLY ENTERTAIN SUCH REQUEST OF PEOPLE,WHICH HE THINKS ARE GENUINE HELP AND UNDER HIS JURIDICTION OR HIS HAND(...SATHI HAATH BADHANA, EK AKELA THAK JAYE TOOO.MIL KER BOOJH UTHAANA...SAATHI HAATH BADHAANA'.))

IN' SHOOL' MANOJ'S UNCOMPROMISING ATTITUDES TOWARDS SYSTEM, PUT HIM AND HIS FAMILY IN TROUBLE.HIS ONLY DAUGHTER DIED IN AN ACCIDENT,AND WIFE COMMITTED SUICIDE,WHICH RESULTED -IN HIM KILLING GOONDA MLA/CM OF STATE(BIHAR) INSIDE THE VIDHAN SABHA,AFTER HIS SPONTENEOUS OUTBRUST ON STATES GOONDARAJ!!THAT ALSO AFTER REMEMBERING HIS JOINING TIME 'SHAPATH'.

(I LIKED HIS MOVIES 'SATYA'-THOUGH A CRIME STORY OF UNDERWORLD OF MUMBAI) AND ('ZUBEIDA-IT HAS THE BACKGROUND OF RAJASTHAN'.)'

I THINK EVERYONE NEED TO KNOW WHERE TO SAY 'YES' OR WHERE TO SAY'NO', SO AS WHERE TO DO 'ZIDDH', WHERE DO WORK WITH OTHERS 'CONSENT',AND WITH 'CONSENSUS'.

EVERY EMOTIONS,OR POINTS HAS RELEVANCE IN THAT PARTICULAR MOMENT.

SOMEHOW I FEEL IF I WOULD HAVE WRITTEN ALL THESE FEW YEARS BACK,MY DAUGHTER AND SUDHIRJI...MY FAMILY WOULD HAVE BEEN BENIFITTED MORE AND MORE.BUT I WANTED TO GET THING PROVED BY A FLOW...TO SHOW HOW THINGS WERE HAPPENING,THOUGH NOW THINGS ARE MORE TRANSPARENT...AND I CAN SAY,WITHOUT REACHING TO TODAY'S CLARITY IN THINGS,I COULDN'T I COULDN'T SAY HOW THING WILL SHAPE UP.

EVEN IN 1983 SUDHIR/SUDHIRJI AND HIS CARTOONS HAD A FAN FOLLOWINGS...IT STILL HAS!!

AS NEHRUJI HAS SAID TO CARTOONIST 'SHANKAR PILLAI'-'NEVER SPARE ME SHANKAR!' CARTOONISTS WORKS FOR THEIR COUNTRY...OR CAN SAY,ITS UNIVERSAL AS THEY MAKE CARTOONS ON INTERNATIONAL NEWS ALSO,AND ON ALL KIND OF SUBJECTS,THOUGH THEIR SPECIALIZED FORTE IS FIXED.!!!

...SUDHIRJI ALSO NEVER SPARED ANYONE WHETHER PERSON IS HIGH AND MIGHTY OR A COMMON MAN, AND GOT PRAISED FOR IT. MAY HAD OFFENDED FEW PEOPLE,STILL HAS MORE SUPPORTER THEN ENEMIES. I REALLY RESPECT HIS GUTS.HE IS A BALANCED PERSON,CONSISTENT IN HIS WORK,HAS FIGHTING SPIRIT IN EVEN OPPOSITE/ADVERSE SITUATIONS.TAKE CARE OF EVERYONE AND IS QUITE POPULAR. VERY CARING,HAS SEVA BHAV.QUITE 'SHANT BY NATURE' BUT HIS CARTOONS HAS AGGERESSION IN IT. DO NOT HAVE ANY CHARGES ON HIM,THOUGH HE HAD FOUGHT FEW CASES HIMSELF IN PRESS COUNCIL,WHEN OFFENDED BY HIS CARTOONS,FEW PERSONS OR SOME ORGANIZATION HAS FILED CASES.HAS A TRANSPARENT BUT TWO IN ONE CHARACTER.A RESPONSIBLE FAMILY PERSON AND A FATHER.A PRIVATE PERSON AND A LONER AT TIMES.

ONE CANNOT MAKE A PERSON HERO,OR A ROLE MODEL THEMSELF,...IT OTHERS WHO JUDGE!!

AND HE IS A ROLE MODEL AND A HERO FOR MANY,AT HOME AND OUTSIDE.VAISE EVEN HE FACED SPECULATIONS AND GOSSIPS(though it were wrong)!!.THAT WAS A MADDENING TIME,MANY OF HIS PROJECTS ARE STILL UNFINISHED.

VAISE BHI AT TIMES PEOPLE'S INSECURITIES OR EVEN EGO MAKES THEM EITHER VILLIAN/VAMP,OR A DURPOK...!!

WHETHER ITS S/HE,OLD YOUNG OR A KID.


(I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT MID AGE CRISSIS,OR AT TIMES 'FACEOFF' BETWEEN HUSBAND AND A WIFE..!!)OM SHANTI!SHANTI!SHANTI...HEY RAM! WHAT I AM TALKING?



HE IS IN 'THE ASIAN AGE/DECCAN CHRONICLE' NEWSPAPERS THESE DAYS.

WE DO HAVE A OFFICE ROOM IN OUR HOME WHICH IS WELL EQUIPPED WITH LAPTOP,COMPUTER,SCANNER,PRINTERS ETC.IF NECCESSARY,PEOPLE DO COME TO MEET AND EVEN PRESS PEOPLE COME TO TAKE SUDHIRJI'S INTERVIEWS ON HIM OR HIS VIEWS ON ANY SUBJECT. BUT ITS BETTER TO MEET OUTSIDE,IF PEOPLE HAVE OFFICIAL WORK OR MEETINGS,IN A PROPER OFFICE,IF YOU HAVE AN OFFICE.

VAISE PEOPLE DO GO OUT FOR OFFICIAL LUNCH N DINNER, OR CAN HAVE AT HOME ALSO,IF THEY ARE VERY BUSY.


NOW I STOP DISCUSSING DHONI AND HIS FAMILY ANYMORE AS 'BOTH OF THEM' NEED TO BE LEFT ALONE AND ENJOY N LEAD SUCCESSFUL LIFE.GOOD WISHES TO THEM.

CRICKET AND WINNING OF WORLD CUP OR OTHER CUPS N GAMES TOOO CHALTA AUR MILTA HI RAHEGA.

BEECH BEECH MEIN AUR KAHANIYAN LIKHNE SE BATEIN BADAL JATTIEN HEIN.

THAT TIME, FIRST TIME I WAS WRITING IN A BLOG...I HAD NEVER WRITTEN IN ANYONE ELSES BLOG BEFORE THOUGH VIA GMAIL I WAS IN CONTACT WITH FEW PEOPLE OR (YUVA BHARAT TEAM) OR FAMILY MEMBERS. HERE NO ONE USES INTERNET MUCH, OTHER THEN FOR PROFESSIONAL WORKS.THOUGH TWITTER AND FACEBOOK ARE NOW A COMMON PHENOMENON.

YES, I TALKED ABOUT THINGS GETTING 'UGLIER' (IN PERIOD OF MANY YEARS)IN MY BLOG, AND NOT IN THEIR BLOG...'HONOUR KILLINGS HAS INCREASED, OR MAY BE START GETTING MORE ATTENTION,GETTING NOTICED',SO AS OTHER ALL KIND OF ISSUES, MR MATUKNATH FACE GOT PAINTED BY INK,THOUGH HE GOT LOTS OF PUBLICITY AND A TITLE OF A 'LOVE GURU',ADOLSCENT PROBLEMS,YOUTH,KIDS,HEALTH,EDUCATION...WITH THE EXAMPLE OF OLD AND NEW MOVIES OR PROGRAMMES.

BUT IF ITS DILUTES HARD NEWS OR ITS REALITIES,WHICH RESULTS IN WRONG DECISIONS AT TIMES,THEN ITS WRONG.

BUT MANY TIMES ITS RESULTS IN HIGHLIGHTING AN ISSUE WHICH EXISTS IN SOCIETY VERY POWERFULLY AND SENSITIVLY COVERING ITS ALL ASPECTS INCLUDING HUMAN RIGHTS, FOR EXAMPLE 'ROZA' OF MANI RATNAM, LATER ON REAL LIFE STORY OF JOURNALIST 'DANIEL PREARL' WAS QUITE SIMILAR,EXCEPT THE HAPPY ENDING'. SO AS HIS MOVIE 'BOMBAY'. ITS UP TO US,HOW WE SEE IT.

BUT WE IGNORE THEM OR WE ARE IGNORENT ABOUT THEM...I CAN GIVE YOU MANY SUCH EXAMPLES.I SHOULDN'T TALK ABOUT MOVIES AND ALL, BUT IF THESE THINGS ARE HAPPENING THEN YOU CAN NOT IGNORE IT.THOUGH I DO NOT WATCH TOO MANY MOVIES.ITS BETTER TO GET USED TO OF HANDLING THESE PRESSURES IN A RIGHT WAY, AND KEEP SELF AND ATMOSPHERE CLEAN,AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

SELF IMPOSED REGULATIONS,OR CO-REGULATIONS AND SELF IMPOSED DECIPLINE ON SELF ARE ALWAYS THE BEST.AND WE DO HAVE.

TO BE CONTD....!! NO MORE TALKS OF MOVIES AND SERIALS UNLESS ITS IMPORTANT TO MENTION.