NIYAAT,NIYAATI AUR AASLIYAAT.

I have to conclude what I am writing for so many days...'NIYAT,NIYATI AUR AASLIYAAT'.I wanted to conclude these topics before going to BHOPAL in a marriage last month, but somehow it get delayed. Anyway I was listening and watching everyone's reactions.Well, my mission was to balance all the good bad ugly points or to do corrections in it as you all were helping in it and so called 'facts' and distortions, and which was 'on air' for atleast last 15 yrs(it was a backlog of 20-25yrs,or should I say feudel mentalities and related stories, which I came across since childhood, though I tried to talk in contemporary point of view), ...In a way how I see them...with my perspective...as I thought and I believe that you all are also noticing it, whether you like it or not and definitly in someway MEDIA(WHICH INCLUDES EVERYTHING-INTERNET/TV/RADIO/PRINT/ADVERTISMENTS/SERIALS/MOVIES...AND EVEN ROAD SIDE GOSSIPS/REACTIONS OF MOHALLA'S...LOOSE TALKs OR SERIOUS ISSUES DISCUSSIONS)....WAS WATCHING/LISTENING/ INTERPRETING OR SHOULD I SAY 'SPINING IT-PLZ DO IT IN POSITIVE,CONSTRUCTIVE WAY WITH USE OF FILTER...OR DON'T DO IT...IT APPLIES ON OUTSIDERS AS WELL AS INSIDERS...INCLUDING ME' ...IN THEIR OWN WAY AND HELPING ME IN SOMEWAY, OR MAYBE VOLUNTEERALY PARTICIPATING IN IT...CAN I SAY EVEN STATE MACHINIRIES WERE DOING THAT, AND REACTING/DISCUSSING.MAKING OR AMENDING LAWS/POLICIES!!!!(THANKS FOR IT)....I WAS TRYING TO INTRACT...INITIALLY UNKNOWINGLY, THEN KNOWINGLY(PLZ SPARE OUR PRIVATE AND PERSONAL TALKS OR GESTURES...GOOD OR BAD...THOUGH WE ALL NEED TO BE MORE CAREFULL AND RESPONSIBLE -THANKS)...NOW TELL ME AIN'T I AM SOUNDING LIKE A '(SOME MENTAL CASE OR ATTENTION SEEKER OR A BIT CRACK???)'....BUT I DO FEEL I AM GIFTED AND CAN SPEAK FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE CURSED BECAUSE OF POVERTY, SOCIAL INJUSTICES, BACKWARDNESS,SUPERTITIOUSNESS,CRIME,HUMAN RELATIONS AND FAMILY RELATIONS, HEALTH AND EDUCATION PROBLEMS,INFRASTUCTURE,ENERGY,POWER,POPULATION,GROWTH,IT,...ETC, BUT FOR THAT IT WAS VERY NECCESSARY TO PROVE THAT WHAT AND HOW THINGS ARE HAPPENING 'ON AIR'....OTHERWISE EVERY ISSUES WHICH WE WERE WORKING OR DISCUSSING ON OR ABOUT, WERE BACKFIRING ON US. BUT THEN NOW I FEEL I DO NOT NEED TO GO IN ANY DETAILS TO CLEAR MY POINT OR CLEAR ANYKIND OF MESS....TO BE CONTINUE...!!!

I felt It was my duty to clear every points,specially pain points as things were coming back on us...now we don't need to be 'ANGRY YOUNG MEN OR WOMEN...AS I FEEL EVEN SHAANT PERSON CAN BE STRONG AND NOT ONLY PERSON WHO IS FULL OF AGGRESSION,IT CAN BE SHOWN BY ACTION ON GROUND...OR IN REALITY..THAT'LL BE BETTER' I am sure of...!!!
Definitly it will clear off/wipe off wrong impressions regarding issues from kids and youths mind not only at our home but certainly from those also, whom I am watching on TV discussing these topics of crime, culture, naxalism,terrorism, human relations,growing age(adolscent problems)...and definitly health and education...and all such other aspects/topics.


I had written about Aditi as a representative of todays Youth from whose EYES and CAMERA'S EYES I was looking towards the NEW AND YOUNG INDIA...certainly I do not consider me and Sudhirji 'buzurg old person' as still we have to long way to go and our parents are still there to give us blessings, but new generation is seeing things differently in this fast growing globalized era of transition. They are far better in many ways then us but we definitly need to guide them in their emotional confusions due to many options in career choices ...and various exposure in growing age, in their outlook towards life. One thing which really matter is they all need to become more balanced in life, and not very impulsive and impatient(Aditi is not very impulsive or impatient).

I wish my 'this god gifted blessing' should not become a hurdle/bliss for my near and dear one's life...they should progress as they all are talented, virtous, hard working and qualified, honest people. Whoever are in jobs need not face hurdle because of media attention. Definitly everyone has to handle their own good and bad situations and problems, but if because of them if their office is getting attention(directly or indirectly) and due to that- if they get benifited as a result....its their luck!!!...I don't think anyone need to have problem with this.Please carry on ...if people really relate with these reflections in media, or learn something...well and good, but if not then get entertained or switch it off. But for god sake don't 'comment or judge on the basis of it'...I cannot totally relate with any of the character of any serial or movie...that's why earlier people called me 'MISFIT'...But the truth is in so many channels, it has so many softwares...so many characters which are constantly evolving and definitly producer do think about its commercial aspects and entertainment elements(TRP-lots of serious discussions and talk of ethics and lakshman rekha in journalism has already happened and I am sure it will produce some results...!!!)...so whats the point? You cannot change your thinking, ideologies, vision so constantly...though life is a evolving process, we all grow with time. One can be idealistic, but then being realistic is more important in real or 'unreal' life, otherwise you'll become a 'kathputly of programme makers hand...as it is shown in many serials...and which are still effecting our emotions,moods and thinking and at times relations. I am sure it may sound vauge but As now Aditi's most of the friends names are getting highlighted...SANCHI,KAJRI,DEVIKA,SHUBHAM,AMAN,SOMYA,DENNIS, PALLAVI,BITTO,BUNTY,LUCKY,VICKY,GOLU,AARUSHI,SUUNY.....ETC...WHO ARE NEIGHBOURS/SCHOOLFRIENDS/COLLEGE FRIENDS/JUST FRIENDS OR GOOD FRIENDS/COUSINS/FAMILY...NOW SHE AND OTHER MEMBERS CAN UNDERSTAND THAT SUDHIRJI'S OR MY FAMILY MEMBERS/FRIENDS/PROFESSIONAL COULEAGE'S NAMES OR SIRNAME'S(WHICH ARE COMMON-pahle se tha ya baad mein tha) WERE THERE, WHICH DOES NOT MEAN MUCH... BUT THEN ...INITIALLY IT DO CREATED HURDLES PROFESSIONALY/PERSONALLY, SUDHIRJI STILL HAS QUITE A FEW PROJECTS UNFINISHED(T-SHIRTS WITH RITU BERI/EXHIBHITION WITH RENU MODI/MURALS/..ETC) ...AND TILL NOW,HE GETS SIDELINED AT TIMES-WITHOUT ANY REASONS, WHICH HURTS ME, THOUGH HE IS DESERVING AND DON'T NEED TO PROVE HIS TALENT AND DO TRY TO EVOLVE CONSTANTLY IN OTHER FORMS OF CARTOONING ART ALSO !!!....BUT THEN WHERE BUCKS STOPS??/!! NOW I DON'T WANT TO GO BACK DISCUSSING OLD STORIES. EVERY WHERE IN WORLDLY RELATIONS TRUST IS IMPORTANT...REST IS LIFE. I JUST DON'T WANT ANY OF THEM TO BE IN MESS BECOZ OF THIS MOMENTUM/HYPE AT TIMES- IN PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL LIFE...REST, I AM SURE NOW THEY ALL CAN HANDLE ON THEIR OWN. AND IF THEY ARE GETTING BENIFITTED BECOZ OF IT...I DON'T NEED ANY CREDIT. ALL THE BEST.

BUT ANY PROBLEMS/SITUATIONS/RELATIONS CAN GET RECTIFIED/CORRECTED, IF ONE DESIRE OR WANT TO!!AND OPPURTUNITIES CAN BE AVAILED, IF ONE HAS QUALITIES,CONFIDENCE,INTEREST,AMBITION,KNOWLEDGE AND IF THEY DESERVE TO BE THERE, OR CAN GET A CHANCE AS A BEGINNER AND TRUSTED FOR IT...AND CAN TRY TO LIVE UPTO THE EXPECTATIONS.

IN LAST FEW MONTHS WE DISCUSSED WHAT I THOUGHT WAS IMPORTANT AND WAS OF PRIORITY FOR ME IN MY BLOGS...BUT DEFINITLY, THOSE ISSUES AND THEIR ROOT CAUSES GOT INTO CENTRESTAGE TIME TO TIME, ....AND HOW IT WAS GETTING SPREAD WORLD WIDE AS A CHINESE WHISPER!!!

...WE NEED TO GIVE ATTENTION TO FEW SUCH OTHER PROBLEMS OF SOCIETY AS WELL, WHICH WE VERY EASILY IGNORE OR SHY AWAY FROM. 'KOYLE MEIN HAATH DAALNE SE HAATH TOO KALA HOGA HI',BUT JOURNALISTIC OR SOCIAL ACTIVIST APPROACH CANNOT LET US IGNORE IT. IT IS A 'KIDAA' IN ME AND I AM PROUD OF IT...OTHERS NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT HERE.

EVEN OUR FAMILY MEMBERS AND FRIENDS NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY HAVE SOME RESPONSIBILITIES AND THEY NEED NOT MISUSE IT...AND WORK/PERFORM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE...A MEANINGFULL LIFE IS ALWAYS BETTER THOUGH EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN PARAMETERS...BUT THEN ITS THEIR OWN PRIORITY AND DEFINITLY THESE ALL RULES APPLIES ON ME AS WELL.

I WISH PEOPLE SHOULD NOT GET CARRIED AWAY BY ANY LAHAR/MOMENTUM,AND MUST APPLY THEIR BRAIN AND HEART BEFORE TAKING ANY BIG DECISIONS!!

...NEITHER GET ASSOCIATED WITH US JUST BECAUSE OF 'ONLY' THIS QUALITY....AM I SOUNDING ARROGANT?

...SHOULD I SHARE A SECRET...AT TIMES THIS LOVE AND ATTENTION SHOWERED ON US WITHOUT ANY REASON MAKES ME EMOTIONAL AND HAPPY...AND MORE RESPONSIBLE...TRYING TO BE MORE MATURE, WHICH WILL HAPPEN GRADUALLY.WE ALL FEEL HAPPY AND SPECIAL...BEING PART OF IT IN SOMEWAY-CONTRIBUTING POSITIVLY SOMEWAY...THANKS TO YOU ALL.BUT THEN IT IS BIT SCARY AND MAKE US LITTLE BIT CONCIOUS...AS WE ALL LOVE OUR PRIVACY AND TRY TO KEEP LOW PROFILE.

BUT DEFINITLY MY FIRST PRIORITIES ARE TAKING CARE OF SUDHIRJI/ADITI...AND MA/BABUJI...(AND NURTURE MY OWN IDENTITY AS WELL IN A FIELD I INTEREST AND FEEL SATISFIYING WORKING, AND CAN SUPPORT IN OUR FAMILIES ECONOMIC GROWTH IN SOMEWAY....) BUT I AM NOT IN ANYKIND OF RAT RACE. AND THEN MY PARENTS,OTHER RELATIVES AND FRIENDS....I AM HAPPY WE ALL ARE BHARATIYA/INDIAN/HINDUSTANI...WHATEVER PHRASE WE USE -BY CORE OF OUR HEART, WHETHER YOUNGER GENERATION WHO DO WEAR JEANS OR OTHER OUTFITS AT TIMES, EAT PIZZA,PASTA,CHINESE OCCASIONALY...WE ALL ARE INDIANS BY HEART...AND I AM SURE WHETHER THEY GO TO OTHER COUNTRIES FOR STUDIES/WORK/TRAVELLING...(CAN BE GOOD PHOTO OPPORTUNITY FOR ADITI)...THEY ALL PROMOTE/SPREAD INDIANNESS THERE AS A PROUD INDIAN...AS QUALITIES AND FLAWS ARE PART OF EVERY COUNTRY,CULTURE.RELIGION...!!!...THOUGH THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN LEARNING GOOD POINTS FROM OTHER COUNTRIES OR CIVILIZATIONS.

AS ATLEAST I BELIEVE IN RELIGION OF HUMANITY...AND I AM SURE OTHERS DO AGREE WITH ME. IN LAST FEW MONTHS DISCUSSIONS...I AM GLAD MY DAUGHTER IMERGED AS A STRONGER PERSON. (BUT I DO WISH SHE NEED TO DO MORE REASEARCH ON ANY PERSON AND NOT JUST REACT ON GOSSIPS SHOWN ON TV(MAY BE RIGHT OR WRONG)....AND SEE WHAT IS SAID IN WHAT CONTEXT...(IT APPLIES ON EVERYONE)

I AM VERY HAPPY WITH HER AND SURE OF IT THAT WHOMEVER SHE WILL CHOOSES/OR MAY BE GET AGREE WITH OUR CHOICE FOR ARRANGE MARRIAGE IN FUTURE... WILL BE THE RIGHT PERSON FOR HER,BOTH WILL LIVE WITH-HEERA HAI SADA KE LIYE MINDSET(MINUS GOSSIPS),DO LIVE WITH MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND DO WORK WITH FAMILY CONSENTS AS MUCH IS NECESSARY,TAKE CARE OF THEM,IN ...LIVE AND LET LIVE MODE. AS WHERE EVER NECCESSARY -ADJUSTMENTS ARE PART OF LIFE FOR BOTH...GROOM AND BRIDE GROOM AND EVEN FOR THEIR FAMILIES AND STILL ONE CAN NURTURE THEIR INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY....AS EVEN SHE IS A TALENTED GIRL...AND WILL TAKE STEPS WITH FAMILY (OUR)CONSENT.SHE IS GETTING MATURER AND GROWING UP.I WISH HER TO BECOME A LADY OF SUBSTANCE(that she is) WITH GOOD COMBINATIONS OF BEAUTY,BRAIN AND INDIAN SANSKAR,WITH INTERNATIONAL AND WIDER EXPOSER AND NOT TO BECOME A 'KOOPMANDOOK'-WHATEVER HER IDEALOGY MAY BE,IF SHE HAS ANY. GOOD WISHES TO HER.WE ALL SHOULD LEARN FROM ELDERS ACHIEVEMENTS AND EXPERIENCES IN LIFE, AND FROM THEIR MISTAKES (IF ANY) AS WELL. DO NOT FOLLOW ANYTHING BLINDLY. (it applies on anyone)

NO ONE IS OUR ENEMY, NEITHER WE WORK WITH THE INTENTIONS OF BADLA/REVENGE. NO ONE IS OUT OR IN...WHOEVER WILL BE PERFORMING WILL AUTOMATICALLY GET ATTENTION.WE ALL ARE TEAM...WE ARE LIVING IN A 'KAANCHH KA GHAR'!...BUT THEN NO MORE CHASING AS WELL...(IF THERE IS ANY).ENOUGH OF THIS TALK NOW....SAB AAPNE HI LOG HEIN,DOOSRA KAUN HAI'...AS SONG OG 'LAAGAN (MADE FEW YEARS BACK)SAYS' "oh mitwa!oh mitwa! tujh ko kya der hai re! ye dharti appni hai! appna aamber hai re!...BUT ITS BETTER TO AVOID UNNECESSARY CONTROVERSIES OR GOSSIPS OR SPECULATIONS!!