30th January 2010.....and Moqabla

30th January has important significance in my life....Its my B'day...I am 45yrs old now, unofficially, though officially I am 30/7/66 born that means I am not yet 44yrs old.(My b'day is 30/1/1965...in the evening 9.15pm approxmatly....on saturday....in FCI SINDRI /DHANBAD/TOWNSHIP HOSPITAL(now in Jharkhaand)...anyone has any predictions for me...good or bad???...Personally, I really is not very orthodox/supertitious...as I always belived in SELF...as I have written it in my blog and my Facebook profile/Info earlier,(khudi ko ker buland itna..ki hur taqdeer se pahle, khuda bande se yeh pucche, baata teri raza qua hai...)...but recently I do started thinking/believing strongly, there is 'something beyond us' we and science have yet to discover...!! You can call them God...!!or one can call them destiny/ kismat...so do your work and duties...and left the result for God/destiny/Kismat....as Shri Krishna has said in BHAGVAD GITA...KARMANYAVADHIKARASTE,MA FALESHU KADA CHANA...!! As I fixed up my daughter's marriage with Mr M.S.Dhoni...here in this blog(sounding crazy...don't laugh, I am serious now...as I announced it in my Mayka before I started writing in blogs)...let's see what god has stored for both of them..../as I started writing here about many things...without thinking what is going to happen,how people will react to it/interpret my words at home and outside/...its another thing that others are also writing in blogs...!!

Yesterday morning I got so many phone calls,msgs,mails from friends,family members...that I really felt SPECIAL and it was emotionally charging moment...!!Had a nice evening with family members...Rajeshji and Vibhaji/Bhupendraji/Pupul came...Aditi gifted me a nice cake....got GUPTDAAN by MA-BABUJI (they are SPECIAL as
PARENTS of nice kids, who all making them Proud/ So as I feel even my PARENTS are!!!)...for my gulluck, suits by Sudhirji and younger Sis-in-law's family(who is always interested in taking things 50-50 from me, but we do have other memebers also to share the cake) ....!!

Well these are material happiness which cannot cover this fact that now I am 45yrs old!!! Which means almost near to half century...half of life. Since childhood I have never distributed sweets in school amongst friends in a morning session as others friends used to do....as at 9.00am we used to keep 'MAUN DHARAN'...as condolence, as it is Punyatithi of Mahatma Gandhiji...!! Someone yesterday has written to me that Its Gandhiji's Punyatithi still I am wishing you...I replied, which I always used to say that" His death today reminds me of fact that no one is immortal physically... but can become a good human being, so that people can remember you for your deeds,vision and values." I have read Gandhiji, can't say I have 'CHEMICAL LOCHA' LIKE MUNNABHAI OF A MOVIE...but yes I am quite impressed by his phylosophy of life which are IDEALISTIC but still quite PRACTICAL and has been imbibed from integrities of day to day life.Well god bless me as few of my friends said,...so that I can do what I feel, I still need to do.Though I reminded few of them that even housewives has their silent contributions in a family and a society which need not be ignored.Asked by someone "definitly today is the day to remember old days,past"..."I said yes,old memories are good, and if on such day or any context we remember them,nothing wrong in it as it reminds us to make days of future better and better...it should be and need to be"!!!

Yesterday saw a programme on NDTV Hindi..MUQABALA.."KYA PADAMSHRI PURASKAR BEMANI HO GAYA HAI???"....Desh mein itni badi samasyan hain...per ek bahas SYSTEM per bhi honi chahiye....shayaad yeh uski hi ek kaddi hai...!!

Yeh ek vishisth rashtriye puraskar hai jise lekar sabhi khush or gauravanvit honge...prathishtha ki baat hai...!!

Sawal isske credibility ki hai, too jahan tak mujhe yaad hai(don't want to comment on Saif Ali Khan or Mr.Chatwal's personal credibility)...Sudhirji(who has got many awards till now) was one of panelist and spoken on this issue after 6yrs. Sudhirji got it in 2004, in the age of just 44. Sudhirji ki kabliyaat aur nishpaksh cartooning or sabhi politicians per attack ki pravirti ko koi nakar nahin sakta...across the partyline and above holycows...he made cartoons on all...people may agree or disagree on his comment/statement depicted in cartoons or not,its other point. Even After getting death threat he himself refused to take police security...never asked help from even any high and mighty in this regard,neither given any interviews to media,and after getting a security man...after 6months he himself requested to withdraw it....well before getting an award (may be)like others he got through all kind of paper checking from home ministry/income tax offices/police varifications...etc...and as his cartoons were getting published in national newspapers since 1970, when he was 10yrs old(don't need to write his biodata and achievements here...people know about it)...so I don't think his(for example as I cannot speak or give anyone else eg... or this award(Padma) has lost its credibility....but if someone of criminal background or has any offensive charges which is embarassing to country is on a person...LEGALLY(not just hawaii)...it is definitly wrong to give such or ANY AWARD to a person(Mr Mahesh Bhatt has spoken well).Definitly we need tranparency why, how,and on what basis we give such awards to anyone,as it was discussed there!!And yes if being a ROLEMODEL in work or as a person is any criteria (or not),but if it is??...then one need to decide the parameters for it that who can be the Role model???...a person who has many girl/boy friends/fans/getting marriage offers...?? a person in a live in relations?? a person having extra marital affairs?? a person who has drinking/smoking...etc habits or beating/abusing habits...??? a person who is a GAY/a LESBIAN/an EUNUCH...etc...as few people has discussed there about Saif!!!(even today I feel these people are differently created by God(LGBT)...so one can take decision by being humane...and think about its remedies and their human rights also before making comments or rules/Laws)... Forget about other legal cases?? RBI,CBI,FBI...!!! Terrorist/naxalite/criminal/Don....so on.

In this programme a word came out strongly LOBBYING...FOR AN AWARD...which is disgraceful,(though Sudhirji jokingly said yes I did, but after getting it!!!...His sense of humour was infectious in this progamme,got praised and clappings by audience sitting there....He always speaks well,his centiments and problems he faced after getting this award is genuine, and I support him in this matter...as in my view he is always a hero)...definitly person's volume of work should speak his/her effort not an award...but then it is a recognition/praise by others of your efforts or countributions,it motivates you to do better!!!So awards do matters!!...But then,definitly our is a country where Mahatma Gandhiji never got BHARAT RATNA...though he is our FATHER OF THE NATION...his followers of PEACE THEORY got NOBLE PURRASKAR but he never got it though his name was recommended there many time!!...STILL HE IS MUCH MORE RELEVANT IN TODAY'S TIME AND WILL BE REMEMBERED BY PEOPLE ....TILL WE/OUR COUNTRY EXISTS, NOT ONLY IN HISTORY BUT IN PRESENT CONTEXT.

But the one irony of our life is, generally,people recognize your effort after you get 'an award'...chota-motta hi sahi...koyi shawl orrha de, tamr-patra de de ,Certificate de de, kuch dhan bhi saath dein to sone pe suhaaga...kucch log sabhaon mein bolne ko bulaleyienge, ribbon katne,udaghaatan karne,Judge banakar bulaiyein...badi baat hai(even I don't mind considering if I am invited and if like it )!!!....aab aapne lobbying ki hai ya genuinly talented hain,ya dono hain...logon ko khaas fark nahin padhta...biodata mein toooo add ho jata hai.Isse hi log naam kamana kahte hain....aakhir OVER AMBITION/LAMBI CHALLANGE/CHEEL KI TARAH UDAAN???(may be like King Ashoka??/) Isska samanytha aarth log kya samajhinge...paisa kamana, naam kamana,award kamana,badi post pana....aur kya???

Now comeback to point of LOBBYING/SIFARISH/recomendation(Sudhirji may have done it for some genuine reason without harming anyone else and for benifit of some) in 'general term' and not just for an award(Someone wanted to meet then PM so that they can discuss about 'Population control problem in our country(as a social issue)...had a plan to do awareness campaign in newspaper/TV/and if Radio by buying Times FM started...which never happened,though a national committee was made consisting of then CMs of different states...I was not asked directly(though it was directed towards me...I know now) to do anything as few seniors(udyanji,indrajit badhwarji were there)...so as talking about A RECOMMENDATION LETTER IF NECCESSARY FROM ANY AUTHORITY FOR A 'STAMP' OF LATE MAHARAJA OF BIKANER SHRI GANGA SINGHJI PENDING IN THAT MINISTRY(PHALATELIC DEPT) FOR YRS AND WE GOT MANY REQUEST BY RAJGHARANA AND(RAJKUMARI)OF BIKANER, DUPLICATE FILE WAS SENT TO US,FINALLY SUDHIRJI MET THEN MINISTER AND GOT A LETTER, BUT BECOZ OF OVERNIGHT MINISTRY RESHUFFLE,NOTHING HAPPENED... THINGS ARE STILL IN THE COLD STORAGE...WE NEVER TRIED AGAIN)....can anyone genuinly,truthfully come out and say(including who said NO, (as even I first time asked her to get recomendation done if she can do it....it was just a request,which was denied and till now whenever I suggested anything...her answer is NO......and that's all) but ask 'her' who said that time,mujhe in baton se lena dena nain,sarokar nahin, mein ye sab nahin karti hoon..)...as THEY THEMSELF HAVE NEVER ASKED FOR sifarish/favour to do for themself, PAHLE AUR BAAD MEIN, maybe to her brother or anyone else known to them???(EVEN I DON'T BELIEVE IN DOING OR GETTING SIFARISH/LOBBYING/MEETING OF DELEGATIONS DONE "UNNECCESSARY", OR INTERFERING IN OTHERS PERSONAL MATTER "WITHOUT REASON"...BUT ONLY IF IT IS WORTH DOING THROUGH PROPER CHANNEL...IS IT WRONG???...SPECIALLY IF DOESN'T HARM ANYONE ELSE'S LIFE OR CAREER OR IF IT HELP SOMEONE OR FEW??? But 'If' I am wrong i am ready to say sorry anytime) ....In todays system where its difficult to get work done without any kind of corruption,pull and PUSH(not talking about a proverb...pushed against wall...or maybe a serial's episode where anyone was pushed from the hill),...recommendation....within "a deadline" easily...whether one's case is genuine and deserving or not.....for example...to get my few cerficates for Aditifoundation(NGO)-cleared from income tax office it took 9months...though we reminded them in between that our papers are lying there on their table..in files, infact our CA was asked for bribe(though we have not given it)...last year!!! If situation is like this though RTI has made things bit simpler and transparent and becoz of media campaign people are now more aware of their rights and how to get work done...!! Can't we say 'ye sub chor/(corrupt) hain,khana hi unki fitrat hai'. Not talking about misunderstandings and misinterpetations at times.

And now a word MANIPULATION...can a person who uses it frequently can describe what it exactly meant...when it was said??...and also if it meant 'lobbying' then isn't it a HARDCORE TRUTH that person talking against MANUPULATIONS herself/himself do manupulations of media in their favour(PRESS CONFERENCES,INTERVIEWS OR MEIN BHI-MEIN BHI OR TRYING TO SLIP IN SOMEONE ELSE's SHOES, THOUGH I BELIEVE THERE IS A SPACE FOR EVERYONE...inside or outside home)/even they get or does sifarish/needed recommendation for getting job/deputation/confirmation at times??....by others related authority/minister!!....it may be a minor thing as in today's time even genuine person get to do this when neccessary....as getting order/recommandation "delayed is a justice delayed"...whether you are competing with others,aspiring for some chair/posts or genuinly it is mere an effort for your survival or betterment at workplace(naukari mein/kam mein).Isn't it unfair??...but then who is responsible??...person's fitrat/mentality or our system which is evolving now slowly??...since 2000 when I stop working full time and 2004 when congress(UPA) came back in power to/for a change....???

KAI BAAR BATEIN PRACTICALLY TABHI SAMAJH MEIN AATI HAIN JAB AAP BHI DUSRON KI TARAH PROBLEM MEIN HON...!!!WHEN ADITI WENT FOR TOUR/TRIP FROM COLLEGE IN A BIG GROUP...LAST YEAR..AT HOME-I SAID,LET HER GO, SHE'LL UNDERSTAND THINGS PRACTICALLY 'ON HER OWN-AAPNE-AAP'.WELL LIKE THIS...HUMARA KAM BAAS SACHET KARNA HAI LIKE A WATCHDOG..!!

# WELL OF COURSE...IN SO MANY YEARS THERE ARE MANY THINGS HAPPENED IN OUR LIFE/AROUND IN FAMILY/FRIENDS/NEIGHBOURHOOD/AREA/STATE/COUNTRY/....SO ON,SO FAR THAT WE CAN CELEBRATE AND CALL IT ACHIVEMENTs...!!!THERE ARE MANY GOOD AND BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS AND THINKINGS ARE IN ALL OF US'S MIND ...AND NOT JUST CONTROVERSIAL AND NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. WELL, WE NEED MORE IMPROVEMENT, AS EVERYONE'S DIL MANGE MORE!!BUT I AM NOT GOING TO WRITE ANYONE'S BIODATA/ACHIVEMENTS OVER THESE 10 YEARS...UNLESS THEY ACHIEVE SOMETHING SIGNIFICANT OR UNUSUAL....OR WANT TO SHARE(and not say PUCCHA QUON NAHIN?? BUT THEN IF IMPORTANT, ONE DO NEED TO SEEK PERMISSION(I USUALLY DO!!.....). AS I CAN SEE FROM BOTH THE SIDES OF FAMILIES...PERSONS WHO DO NOT LIVE WITH THEIR IN-LAWS(MAYBE BECOZ THEY ARE DEAD OR LIVE IN THEIR NATIVE PLACE OR WITH THEIR OTHER SIBLINGS... TRY TO PREACH ME HOW TO LIVE WITH OUR IN LAW's...ITS BETTER IF PEOPLE LIVE IN REALITY ATLEAST NOW ONWARDS AND DO NOT RUIN EACH OTHERS REPUTATION OR CREATE WRONG MYTHS BY GETTING FILMI......VAISE BHI..."JAKKE PAON NA FHATE BIWAII, SO KYA JANE PIRDD PARAI"...NO MORE 'UNNECCESSARY' CONTROVERSIES PLEASE.But I am sure all people understand things better now.